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Beyond My Control

May 29, 2015

Beyond My Control
the yesHEis blog
Fiona Cameron

When a child is born with disabilities our human reaction is to ask, “Why?”

Life can be hard enough without being hampered with such difficulties from the start. It is bad enough when disease or injury or accidents rob people of their senses or mobility, but to be born with those problems just seems wrong. It just seems so unfair that a new, precious, little life should come into the world with so much hardship and struggle predetermined for it.

It is enough to make many people question whether God is real … or if He is real how can he possibly be good? Why would He allow babies to be born blind or deaf? With no arms or legs? With genetic abnormalities, extra chromosomes, degenerative diseases or chronic ailments?

You are the one who put me together inside my mother’s body,. Psalm 139:13

“I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb.” Jeremiah 1:5a

So when a child is born with these physical and mental disabilities we wonder why He didn’t stop it from happening?

From a Christian perspective, we understand that God is all-powerful, all good, all knowing and that He even creates us as individuals before we are born. We know that when He created the first people they were perfect, right up until they disobeyed God and sin entered the world with all it’s curses and consequences. So it is sin that allowed disease and disability to enter the world and today people carry that in them like DNA. It has been passed down through the generations and can therefore manifest itself in the body of a newborn babe who personally hasn’t even had a chance to sin yet.

Since we know He is sovereign over creation, we know that He can perform a miracle and override the natural law to prevent those consequences from happening. We also know that He does not make mistakes. So when a child is born with these physical and mental disabilities we wonder why He didn’t stop it from happening? It might be beyond my control but it is not beyond His. Knowing that He could have intervened but didn’t, can be a bitter pill to swallow. It is then our faith, about who He is and the promises He has made, is really put to the test.

These bodies are so very temporary compared to our eternal spirits and He wants to save as many people as possible.

It is not that God doesn’t care about our physical wellbeing; it is that He cares so much more about our spiritual wellbeing. These bodies are so very temporary compared to our eternal spirits and He wants to save as many people as possible. So if having a weak or incomplete body enables that person and others to come to Jesus and gain the joy and hope of eternity, then it is of greater value that having a complete body that never finds Him. It is a similar concept to that expressed in Matthew 16.

And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Matthew 16:26

Better to be blind in this life and know God in the next, than to be whole in this life and see Hell in the next.

As Jesus was walking along, he saw a man who had been blind from birth. “Rabbi,” his disciples asked him, “why was this man born blind? Was it because of his own sins or his parents’ sins?” “It was not because of his sins or his parents’ sins,” Jesus answered. “This happened so the power of God could be seen in him.” John 9:1-3

In this instance the man’s infirmity was used by God, to bring many to Himself through a miraculous healing and sometimes this still happens today. At other times God uses the testimony of people’s strength and joy and resolve, despite the fact they have infirmities.

One such person is Nick Vujicic, while another is the story of Bill and Glad. Even though they both face extreme trials, they recognise that “these circumstances are beyond my control” and they still have unshakable faith that their lives are lovingly and safely in God’s hands. In both these cases God has been able to reach into other people’s hearts through their resilience when facing seemingly impossible odds.

For a non-believer though this concept can also be a bitter pill to swallow. Ever heard someone say, “So hang on, your good God lets kids be born blind because it might help other people to know him? What kind of sick god is that? I wouldn’t want to follow a god like that!”

Until we believe in our core being that life eternal with God is the most important treasure there is, we cannot comprehend that any price is worth paying to find it.

It can be a difficult argument to answer because according to our human reasoning and value system it does seem like a valid argument. Therein lies the problem. We judge everything by our own reasoning and values and unless we know God personally, we don’t understand how ignorant and finite our knowledge is. Of course pointing that out doesn’t help with answering the argument either.

Until we believe in our core being that life eternal with God is the most important treasure there is, we cannot comprehend that any price is worth paying to find it. That price is to believe in Jesus, and believing Jesus means taking up your cross and following Him. That cross we bear might be physical, financial, relational or any other number of trials and hardships but we carry on through His strength for the prize that awaits us.

If any of you want to be my followers, you must forget about yourself. You must take up your cross and follow me. If you want to save your life, you will destroy it. But if you give up your life for me, you will find it. Matthew 16:24-25

In the end it’s all about perspective; that is who’s eyes are we seeing the problem or situation through.

Society puts so much emphasis on this brief, physical, finite existence without really taking into account the bigger picture of eternity. Yes a life of physical pain, emotional trauma or mental instability can be tragic, hard and not fair. In the end it’s all about perspective; that is who’s eyes are we seeing the problem or situation through. When we can not only accept but actually embrace our identity according to the way that God sees us, those difficulties fade into insignificance and we become a true example to guide others to an eternity of joy, hope and blessing, isn’t that worth it?

“Lord, remind me how brief my time on earth will be. Remind me that my days are numbered – how fleeting my life is. Psalm 39:4

You don’t really know about tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for only a short while before it vanishes. James 4:14

Eternity is a little hard for our minds to get around so what if we broke it down to an example we can understand?

If you were given the choice of 1 year of pain and trouble followed by 1000 years of blessings and joy OR 1 year of contentment and happiness followed by 1000 years of torment and pain, which would you choose?

Now how about we tweak that a bit. If you were given the choice of YOU experiencing 1 year of pain and trouble so that someone you love could have 1000 years of blessings and joy OR YOU can have 1 year of contentment and happiness and they will have 1000 years of torment and pain, which would you choose?

I would like to think that most people would choose the hard road to see their friends and family safe and blessed. It is why, when Christians face hardships and struggles and disabilities, we can rejoice, because if even one person comes to know Christ, and receives eternal life and the hope of heaven, then this short, physical life of struggles was worth it.

There are some excellent videos of people overcoming on yesHEis.com. Could one of these stories be an encouragement for someone you know?

The Story of Nick Vujicic

The inspirational story of Nick Vujicic, who was born with no arms and no legs. Rather than wallow in self pity, Nick is able to rise above his own circumstances to view things from a different perspective.

The Story of Gianna Jessen

The heart-wrenching story of Gianna Jessen who suffers from cerebral palsy after being born during a failed saline abortion attempt at 7 1/2 months.

My Broken Dream

Sarah was born with Spina bifida, and as her spine failed to develop properly, she had great difficulty walking and often required a wheelchair and leg splints. She had hoped that God would heal her.


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Fiona Cameron

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Fiona is a community specialist, on-line evangelist, blogger and social media specialist. She has done over 7000 interviews with pop stars, authors, celebrities, politicians during a 27 year radio career. She holds a Diploma in Theology and is raising a lively 13 year old. Her passions include archery, motorcycling and science fiction.

Beyond My Control
the yesHEis blog
Fiona Cameron

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